On the day you chose to marry your spouse, it is unlikely that you ever thought for better or for worse would mean betrayal. Statistically speaking, marital dissatisfaction is not significantly correlated with infidelity. In other words, you can be in a generally pleasant marriage and still experience infidelity. So let’s talk about what to […]

You’ve made the plunge to pick up the phone, call a few therapy offices and attempt to determine why your relationship feels distant and conflictual. Often times, couples become trapped in what Drs John and Julie Gottman of Gottman Method Couples Therapy (GMCT) refer to as, the attack-defend cycle. Preemptive to that, you may experience defensiveness, blame, and one or the other of you shutting down and emotionally withdrawing. She wants to know why you are late coming home (again) and he despises that she only notices late days and not when he is timely, therefore the couple finds themselves placing blame, attempting to find fault, and with no solution.